The instant I heard him snoring, I darted to the door, ran down the stairs, and drove home like a bat out of hell. I spent the rest of the night coming up with a plan to cut ties. But he never called again. A month later, curiosity got to me and I looked him up on Courtview. A wave of terror washed over me as I read that several days after our second date, he was arrested for attempted murder.

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We knew this was coming, thanks to the SCOTUS Leaker, but that didn’t make last week’s news any less devastating. (Who’s the leaker? My money’s on Ginni.) So, what can we do now? We can march, we can donate, and we can vote like the Right has been voting for 50 years, i.e., we can vote like …

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Last Friday, as what felt like half of the city flocked to Williwaw for Showdown’s Sundown Solstice Festival, I found myself sitting in a dark corner of Koot’s. A lesser-known act, George Michael Reborn, had been the cover story that week, so I felt obligated to forgo the dancey beats of Flo…

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As a queer man of color—I'm Asian—I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto, or any city where white gay men dominate. Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism. I understand that sexual attraction…

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Dear Oskar,

My son is graduating from college this June. As well as being excited, I am also worried because all of my ex’s family will be there. My ex-mother-in-law disliked me from the beginning, so being around her is very uncomfortable. How can I navigate my ex’s family?

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According to Celtic lore, Summer Solstice is the one time of the year that evil spirits and demons could be banished. In honor of the holiday, Celts would light bonfires and send wheels of fire cascading down hillsides. To encourage luck, lovers would jump through the flames of the bonfires …

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I’m a 29-year-old bisexual woman in a non-monogamous relationship. A few years ago, I wanted to explore my submissive side and met up a with a Dom I connected with on a kink site. We had a few drinks and hit it off. We discussed what we were comfortable with and our limits beforehand. I set …

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I’m trying to date again after back-to-back negative relationship experiences. Experiences that have made me question my own judgment and ability to set good boundaries. My friends and therapist all pointed out the red flags, but I was apparently blind to them. I love what you’ve said about …

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I see family vacations as a time to explore the things that my kids and I are interested in.

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If the Daddy/boy dynamic isn’t something you want (if it doesn’t turn you on and/or you worry it’ll make things weird), and it isn’t something he wants (assuming he didn’t just say that because he thought it was what you wanted to hear), then you definitely shouldn’t “lean into it.”

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A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.

— Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person

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Savage Love By Dan Savage

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Free Will Astrology By Rob Brezsny

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I am a 37-year-old heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship with a het cis male. Let’s call him “Rick.” We’ve been together for five years and engaged for two. Our sex went from passionate, fun, and frequent early in the relationship to nearly nonexistent now. I have gently initiated …

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I’m a straight guy, married to a straight woman for 15 years. Several years back, I opened up to my wife about my fantasies of her sleeping with other men. I was nervous about bringing it up. Her views on sex had always been traditional, and she had always expressed a very strict idea of mon…

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I still remember the day my first love played me the song "All My Life" by K-Ci & JoJo. We were 11 years old, and after spending the day riding bikes around Bayshore, we stopped at his grandma's house for bologna sandwiches. After feasting on the front porch, he pulled out his Walkman, w…

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My husband and I have been together for 12 years. Yet, our marriage feels so stagnant. How do we regain that excitement that brought us together in the first place?

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For more than a year, Kelly Tshibaka has been claiming that Sen. Lisa Murkowski “can‘t run as a Republican.”

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Until I spotted one during a recent woodland walk, I never imagined that a water strider could bring such a considerable measure of surprise, delight, and mystery into my adult life. But that’s exactly what happened when I met one of these common aquatic insects while hiking through Earthqua…

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I’m a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don’t wake up when she periodically masturbates next to me and has the bed shaking pretty hard. She doesn’t know this wakes me. How do I handle this? Do I offer a hand (or a dick) the next time? Talk to her when she’s not h…

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With another Earth Day fast approaching— it’s annually celebrated on April 22—I’d like to offer some reflections on our species’ complex relationship with the life-giving planet that is our home.

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I’m a married gay man. I’m nervous about sending this question and my husband is afraid you might answer it. I’m a fairly vanilla guy, while my husband is into bondage. We’ve been able to make it work because he’s into a kind of bondage he calls “storage.” On “storage nights,” I put him in b…

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Bisexual female in an open/monogamish relationship with a heterosexual male. My partner and I have some friends in the swinging lifestyle that invite us to parties and group sex events. They recently picked up gonorrhea at a hotel takeover and did not find out until after hosting 20 people a…

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My youngest recently moved out. I thought I was ready to focus on myself more, but I am finding the grief much harder to cope with than anticipated. What can I do?

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Former President Trump’s so-called “Complete and Total Endorsement” goes only to those candidates willing to smile and swallow Trump’s lies that the 2020 election was stolen from him.

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For weeks now, I’ve been waking up angry. There never seems to be any obvious triggers. Yet, day after day, I wake up, don my invisible armor and go into the office ready to crack skulls. By the end of the day, I’ve worked myself into such a tizzy that my fitness tracker ecstatically proclai…

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Ask me what I know about Caribbean food, and you’ll be met with a blank stare. All right, how about Guyanese food? I’m sorry—what? As it turns out, the South American country of Guyana happens to be the birthplace of Da J3rk Spot owner Vieannie Wu.

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It took me a year, and that’s a “me-bad,” but last weekend, I finally made it to Seward to visit Stoney Creek Brew House and brewer/owner Greg Haas. For the record, Hass is one hell of a nice guy with incredibly strong civic pride, and he’s making some damned fine beers that are sought after…